Submissive Contract Template for D/s Couples

This is a starting point for a submission contract between a Dominant and a submissive. It’s written to be edited: cross out what doesn’t apply, and add whatever the two of you keep talking about. If you want to fill it in on screen, use the contract generator. If you’re still working out whether you lean dominant or submissive in the first place, the test may help.

The template

An agreement between Dominant's name (Dominant) and submissive's name (submissive)

Starting on start date. We’re both adults, we’re both here by choice, and this page records what we want right now. It has no legal weight, and it can change whenever we agree to change it.

Why we’re doing this

Dominant's name wants to lead, and submissive's name wants to be led, in the ways written below. We want this to make our lives and our relationship better. If it stops doing that, we’ll talk.

What Dominant's name agrees to

To take responsibility for the scenes and rules we’ve agreed on. To pay attention to how submissive's name is doing, inside and outside a scene. To respect every limit and every safeword, every time, without sulking. To be honest about their own limits and bad days as well.

What submissive's name agrees to

To follow the agreed rules in good faith. To speak up when something hurts in a bad way, feels wrong, or has stopped being fun. To use the safeword when it’s needed, without waiting to be sure. To look after their own health and let Dominant's name know about anything that affects play.

Our rules

your rules

Limits

Hard limits, not up for discussion during a scene: your hard limits

Soft limits, only with a conversation first: your soft limits

Safewords

your safeword stops everything immediately. your slow-down word means slow down or check in. Either of us can use them. When one is used, we stop or slow down, and we talk about it later with no penalty and no hurt feelings.

Aftercare and check-ins

After a scene, we take time for: your aftercare. We also check in about this agreement once a week, somewhere calm and fully dressed.

Review and ending

We’ll review this agreement on review date. Either of us can end it, or any part of it, at any time, for any reason, by saying so. Ending it doesn’t require an explanation, and it doesn’t count as failing.

Signed, Dominant's name and submissive's name, on start date.

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